The Aftermath of a Life Ending
In loving memory of my step-daughter Kelly Marie Harrington

By Deb Kosmer
2010 Deb Kosmer; Oshkosh WI

KELLY, May 15, 2010: Empty House, Heavy Heart

Piece by piece, memory by memory, we emptied out all traces of you, leaving only a shell that once housed so much of your living. Now it is just empty walls, barren floors, and unused cupboards. I acted from my head, ignoring my heart, doing what had to be done. There was no time to let my heart get in the way. It was just a house; but it wasn't. It was your house. Dismantling it felt like we were dismantling you. I wondered if you were watching and if you were, what you were thinking, and if we were keeping the things you would want to be kept. I wondered why again, trying to swallow the unthinkable and knowing I had no other choice. As I drove away my heart came undone and the tears ran down my face.

Kelly's step-mom, Deb Kosmer


About the Author

Deb Kosmer

MINISTRY HOME CARE, AFFINITY VISITING NURSES HOSPICE

Hatley, Wisconsin


Deb Kosmer provides grief support to patients and families prior to death and to family members after the death, faci.itates grief-support groups, offers grief educational programs to the community, and collaborates with other agencies to do that.

Email: debrakosmer@gmail.com Read Deb's articles at Open to Hope