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1. Each person's experience of grief is unique and precious.
2. Grief may be of any intensity, and may last for any amount of time.
3. It is okay to display strong emotion, or none at all.
4. It is okay to refuse the sentiments of others.
5. Some in grief may seek comfort in religion and spirituality. Others may
          seek comfort in non-religious contexts. Others may not wish to be
          comforted at a given time.
6. Making a person as emotionally safe and physically comfortable as
          possible is sometimes the best way to help.
7. It is okay for those in grief to seek healing or resolution, or to not.
8. Family and friends may feel sad that their loved one is grieving. Such
          secondary grief is real and painful but the primary griever cannot be
          expected to understand this or have to deal with it.
9. Healing, resolution, and the achievement of positive frames of reference
          may be possible for those in grief. Caring support can help.


* A FAR sanctuary is a place of refuge and caring.
* Offering sanctuary is an act of compassion, not an obligation.
* Sanctuary may benefit those providing it as well as those receiving it.
          We grow through love.
* Sanctuary can last for a minute, or it can last forever. It's the quality of
          sanctuary, not its duration or place, that defines it.
* Caring emotional support includes trying not to judge what another
          person should be feeling, or for how long.
* Giving food, extending shelter, or other resources in a sanctuary is
          neither required nor discouraged.
* By creating any sanctuary, no matter how modest, we help to create a
          society having the qualities we demonstrate.
* By making connections and referrals to other sanctuaries, we are able
          to extend refuge and caring farther on down the road.